A Perfect 14?

 

I stumbled on this movie “A Perfect 14” online today.  I’m not sure what to think about it.  I love the new-found attention that plus size fashion and modelling is getting now, I feel like I’m a part of the club, but after watching the trailer I feel part cheerleader part fat basher. On the one hand, it’s fantastic to showcase women bigger than the norm as beautiful desirable beings.  On the other hand I’m looking at many of the women and thinking, they’re not that big, really,  A Perfect 14?  I wish.  Isn’t a 14 just average?   Am I a hater?  I don’t want to turn into one of those people who, because I’m bigger than a 14, acts like anything less than my size isn’t important.  I mean we’re all in this together, right?!  Who am I to say who is fat enough to represent the group?  I think my problem is that I feel like there isn’t enough of a representation of  the typical “plus size” woman.  It’s like even when plus size women are represented we’re represented by the version closest to largest example of the norm and with that comes the feeling that you’re still too big for this under served group that you belong to.  It’s a never-ending circle.

I’m still intrigued by the trailer and would love to see the film in its entirety.

 

What do you think?  Am I being an overly sensitive whiner?   Is there a such thing as being too small to be considered a big girl?

 

 

Look Of The Day: B&W Piano Keys

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I have some sad news…

 My quest for more color in my life isn’t going very well.  I seem to have slipped back into the comfort of black and white!  Things could be worse though right?!.  This look was super comfy and mostly professional so it passes for work clothes.  You might remember my top from my haul at the end of summer.

 

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CLOTHING CREDIT: TOP The Bay Jeans: Torrid Boots: Addition Elle

 

Look Of The Day: Office Comfy Casual!

Ever have one of those days when you just need to be comfy.  Well today was that day for me.

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As many of you know, I love a deal.  One of the few things I like more than a deal is comfort!  This was my comfy look of the day!  I really think the outfit wouldn’t have been complete without these boots!  They were a bit of an impulse order that I never returned to Addition Elle!

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Clothing Credit:  Sweater and Shirt: Old Navy Boots: Addition Elle Jeans:  Torrid

Look Of The Day: Street Goth

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Here is my look of the day.  I didn’t think much of it when I put it on but my co-workers were all over it!  Apparently I look good in Street Goth!  My favourite part of this outfit is the wrap which as you probably already know was a steal and a half!  I’m not sure how street goth I am with the wrap but I like it anyway.

CLOTHING CREDITS: Wrap: Reitmans Top: Reitmans Leggings: Torrid Boots: Tall Girl Purse: Express

An Evening With Ashley Graham Pt. 2: Fan girl!

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Hey y’all!  Hopefully you’ve read part one, now for a recap of my evening with Ashley Graham!  I will try to give you a full play by-play but I’m not sure my words will really do the evening justice.

After a long day of promotion, press and bloggers were invited to a media dinner with Ashley Graham at Toca restaurant inside the beautiful Ritz Carlton Hotel.  I was a total fan girl and arrived early, obviously!  I was greeted by a rep from Addition Elle and Ashley.  #SheWon!  Ashley was lovely, offered to take my jacket, as if, and we proceeded to grab a glass of wine.  Ashley was warm and welcoming and the evening slowly turned into what felt like an intimate dinner with friends, only a lot of us didn’t know each other and our host was a supermodel, who, by the way,  greeted each of her guests at they arrived.

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Ashley thanking everyone for attending and their support of her new line.

As we sat down to dinner, everyone got to know each other and chat.  Ashley did the rounds and even took a few pictures while appetizers were served.  Total class act.  Once everyone was seated, Ashley thanked all of us for coming and a request to open a little gift from our host!

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It’s a cup case for your bras to prevent damage while travelling. Brilliant!

As dinner started we chatted about everything!  We met Ashley’s husband, she told us about growing up, her neighborhood, her family and SHE asked US tons of questions.  She doesn’t like the term, Plus Size, Fatkini or Plus Size Model.  She eats burgers, she does Bar and yoga and appreciates a good sale!  Models, they’re just like us! Had I not known better, I really would have thought everyone had known each other for years.  As a member of the media we all know these types of events can be a drag, the “host” is being paid and this is part of the gig.  “Hosts” usually leave early,  Ashley was present and stayed present the entire time.  What made this different was how personal the dinner was.  Everything about it felt real.  There was a certain comfort and familiarity about the whole thing.  By desert we were all being really open and when Ashley asked me what size bra I wore I just blurted it out!  Doesn’t seem like a big deal, but for me, I don’t talk about those things with anyone who hasn’t known me for at least 5 years!  And with that, I put on my big girl panties and asked for a picture.

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Me and Ashley Graham. This is actually pre posing lesson!

Yes!  You read that right, I got a lesson in posing!  I’ll show you that pic in a sec.  We tried to take a picture a few times and then we took this one which I immediately hated!  “Eww, my belly!” came flying out of my mouth and without missing a beat, this supermodel told me not to be crazy and if it really bothered me to follow her trick!  Are you ready for it?  Here it is – Hips back, chin out and down.  It actually works!

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Hips back, chin out and down.

In the end, I actually like the first picture more, it’s brighter and I don’t look like a crazy stalker.  I also met blogger Karyn Johnson.  She was one of my first twitter followers when I started this blog!  She was super nice.

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Me and fashion blogger Karyn Johnson a.k.a. Killer Kurves

I guess I need to give some closing thoughts on this night.  It really was wonderful.  Ashley totally lived up to what I imagined she would be like.  She’s that girl every guy would die to be with, total smoke show.  She’s also the girl who you would want as the BFF you go to Europe with.  As I was leaving she wished me well and told me she was happy she met ME!  I nearly died and that’s when I went into full level 5 fan girl and spilled that I had been a fan of hers forever and was so excited she not only lived up to, but blew away, every expectation I had of her.

CLOTHING CREDITS: My top: Addition Elle, Pencil Skirt: Voluptuous, Shoes: Torrid  Ashley’s Dress: Vivienne Westwood  (on sale – also VW apparently carries dresses in up to a size 3X)

Thanks to my new friend Diana from Dare Magazine for taking my picture with Ms. Graham